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*sigh* ok, here's my problem:

The most important person in my life basically hates me and won't tell me why. I don't know what to do anymore because I can no longer go on thinking that he just needs more time to himself before telling me what happened. It's gotten to the point where he is making me too sad to visit my favorite sites. We have been best friends for a while, and I thought nothing could change that, but I guess I am just naive...

It has been six weeks since he last spoke to me. I sent him a text today explaining my feelings about it.

I don't know what to do anymore. It's like a part of me has just... died. He means more to me than any friend, partner or family member.

:< I seriously hope he gets back to you with some sort of explanation, Kira. It’s very hurtful to ignore someone you care about like that and leave the other person wondering what the problem is for that much time. It doesn’t sound like best friend behavior but if you were best friends with him for awhile then I’ve got some faith that he’ll get back to you if he is.

Did you ask what was wrong before? It’s only natural to ask about someone you care about so if you did, ignoring you for that long is mean. Uuu, I hope something can be worked out! I don’t want you to lose something you cherish so much if it can be helped.

Mitten:< I seriously hope he gets back to you with some sort of explanation, Kira. It’s very hurtful to ignore someone you care about like that and leave the other person wondering what the problem is for that much time. It doesn’t sound like best friend behavior but if you were best friends with him for awhile then I’ve got some faith that he’ll get back to you if he is.

Did you ask what was wrong before? It’s only natural to ask about someone you care about so if you did, ignoring you for that long is mean. Uuu, I hope something can be worked out! I don’t want you to lose something you cherish so much if it can be helped.

Thanks for the encouragement. I did ask him, the last time we spoke as well as in the text today. No response. *sigh* I guess I'll just have to wait and see/try to move on with my life. :-/

>:< Always here, no probalo.
There has to be some reason why he’s acting this way though… People don’t just start hating someone for no reason at all, especially if they were friends before. So even if you do end up having to move on, you deserve some explanation.

I had a pretty bad day today… Think someone could listen and give their two cents?

So I’ve been going to conventions with my best friend for years and our main anime convention is around the corner. I asked today what her plans for going were and it was along the lines of “I’m going to be staying with so-and-so because I split the hotel bill with her (friend we stayed with last year) and I think my mom will be dropping me off.” No we or anything.

Long story short, I asked why I was never informed about the bill sharing, am I invited to go with her, and am I allowed to stay with them if I pay that friend too. Apparently this was planned months before and its my problem for being so late-notice about it. :s But that’s just it. Nobody ever told me these months ahead that they were even planning this. When I brought that up I got a lecture that I’m needy and I’m taking this too personal since I’m the one that didn’t plan ahead if I wanted to stay in a room with them so badly. That’s not what hurt my feelings so much at first though… It’s that nobody told me anything. Like they just don’t want me in their group anymore.

Bringing that up got me I’m needy and have been babied for her for far too long and that if I care so much about what she’s doing then I should be asking specific questions to her more. I just thought that friends tell each other stuff like what they’re planning to do when they do stuff together (although rereading this, it doesn’t sound like I’m especially wanted). I don’t have bunches of friends and she’s my best one I used to spend a lot of time with so that’s why this made me so upset. Maybe I am being a baby about it if I’m so needy… I don’t know. Any thoughts and opinions would help. I'd like to hear what other people think.

Hm, this seems like a common issue for con-goers.

I'd say it's hard to tell if you're being needy from just your post, but if you were purposefully being excluded from their plans, there is probably a reason. Whether or not it is a good one depends entirely on the circumstances. How has your relationship been with your friend recently? Any drama?

Sorry, I know that's not very helpful.

kirakiraHm, this seems like a common issue for con-goers.

I'd say it's hard to tell if you're being needy from just your post, but if you were purposefully being excluded from their plans, there is probably a reason. Whether or not it is a good one depends entirely on the circumstances. How has your relationship been with your friend recently? Any drama?

Sorry, I know that's not very helpful.

Nope, any input is good so I can hear what other people think too.

Having thought about it and getting a text from her saying she would not have had her feelings hurt at all if I made plans without her I’m thinking we’re just finished doing con stuff together. Or at least I am now since I don’t want to be in the dark all over again and then get talked to rudely when I ask about anything. That’s why it upset me no doubt. Up until this point we did all of this together without question but instead of simply saying “I’d like to do stuff on my own this year” I get treated like I’m a stupid and a pest. It’s almost like I was lead on that everything was going as normally.

No, no recent drama as I hung out with her not long ago and everything was fine. I'm feeling better about it now though. I’m not going to let it ruin the whole event for me and if I’m going to get insulted more I just won’t talk with her there. DX It’d be awful being a Madoka who actually weeps.

MittenkirakiraHm, this seems like a common issue for con-goers.

I'd say it's hard to tell if you're being needy from just your post, but if you were purposefully being excluded from their plans, there is probably a reason. Whether or not it is a good one depends entirely on the circumstances. How has your relationship been with your friend recently? Any drama?

Sorry, I know that's not very helpful.

Nope, any input is good so I can hear what other people think too.

Having thought about it and getting a text from her saying she would not have had her feelings hurt at all if I made plans without her I’m thinking we’re just finished doing con stuff together. Or at least I am now since I don’t want to be in the dark all over again and then get talked to rudely when I ask about anything. That’s why it upset me no doubt. Up until this point we did all of this together without question but instead of simply saying “I’d like to do stuff on my own this year” I get treated like I’m a stupid and a pest. It’s almost like I was lead on that everything was going as normally.

No, no recent drama as I hung out with her not long ago and everything was fine. I'm feeling better about it now though. I’m not going to let it ruin the whole event for me and if I’m going to get insulted more I just won’t talk with her there. DX It’d be awful being a Madoka who actually weeps.

I'm sorry, but if you could be a weepy useless Meduka, that would be fantastic. It's terrible to say, but I love when cosplayers can't help but act like the character. I once saw a Crona (Soul Eater) cosplayer who was sitting all alone at a table with a really depressed look on their face. It was hilarious. Obviously, the poor kid was actually lonely and sad, but it was too perfect.

What con are you going to? I'm working on my east coast con list right now, since I'm new to the area and everything.

XD Oh goodness…Now that you mention it that would be pretty spot on of me. I love when people are in character too, since I really don’t see that happening extremely often. D’awww, poor Crona.

I’ll bet there’s no end to cons you can go to in east coast! NDK is in Colorado. :/ Getting not so good these days since it wants to be so family oriented, has an attendance cap starting this year that they’ve never passed, and a crackdown on rules. Need to go to different cons... I just don't know which would be good.

I will move this discussion elsewhere since its not advice anymore… :v But I got a bit of feedback and that’s always better than nobody trying to help. Thank you!

So one of my friends has been saying some things that bother me quite a bit. He said he had no problem with me being bi, but the first discussion we had about this subject ended in big argument.

He said that his friend had just broken up with his gf and that she revealed to him that she was bi around the same time. He kept insisting that bisexuals are more likely to leave their boyfriends since they have twice as many options so it makes sense for guys to be concerned if their gf turns out to be attracted to both genders.

We do have more options, but a person's faithfulness in a relationship depends on their personality. Just because you're attracted to more than one person doesn't mean you're going to leave your bf or gf for someone else. I'm sure he'd agree that a guy isn't necessarily going to break up with his gf just because he finds other girls attractive. If someone is prone to cheating, they're going to cheat no matter what their sexual orientation is.

It upsets me that he seems to think that bisexuals are less trustworthy in relationships. I know he didn't intend to insult me, but I think he was making hasty generalizations about something he knows very little about. I felt bad about getting into an argument with him, but it's important to me.

Have any of you had experiences where a friend accepts you, but still occasionally says some ignorant things like this?

Well dating a bisexual only makes me more jealous XD cause I'm the jealous type hehe and when she starts going on about how hot that guy is, it makes me wish she'd only talk about girls with me lol XD

I think the biggest concern about dating someone who is bisexual or even "lesbian" is, some of them are just experimenting at your expense. Which is unfortunate!

But that guy your "friend" is just spouting social dogma. Screw that!


Speaking of ignorance, I had a friend for like 5 years in this game then he said "its a known fact that straights make better parents, I'm not being a bigot thats just reality" and Im like BS, either way in the end I removed him as friend.

TsukikoIf someone is prone to cheating, they're going to cheat no matter what their sexual orientation is.

THIS. You tell him that cheaters will cheat, sexual orientation be damned. I'm bi and I love my fiancé more than anything and would never ever leave him for ANYONE.

Also, your statement (or his really) only talks about bi females leaving their boyfriends. What about bi guys. They're rare, but they exist. Either way, sexual orienation has NOTHNG to do with whether someone will cheat. End of story.

*pouty blowfish face*