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When people stop respondingWhen people stop responding

ShashiShashi2 months agoMisc
So this is something that actually has been bothering me for years when it comes to this site, especially when using the "Ads" section to sell collectibles to another collector.

So someone contacts you because they are interested, you go back and forth some about the price, shipping rate, maybe some pictures just to make sure everything is good. Then at the end when the sale is about to be final and you give the final total and ask about PayPal address to send an invoice...or where to send money to and the address in general, the other party (the buyer) just goes quiet.

Why?! If you don't want it after all how freaking hard is it to just send that last message to the seller that you have changed your mind and don't really wanna buy it after all? This isn't eBay, you aren't gonna get punished for "retracting your bid" here, even if it is a minor annoyance for the seller because they took pictures for you...etc, it is better than just go completely silent on them. I am not gonna say I have never done this, a few times at least...and I still hate myself for that.

Do you do this?

Seriously people, man the heck up and at least tell the person selling the item you aren't interested anymore, you don't need to tell them why.

(Edit: By the way, yeah this is kind of a rant. One has to let those out at times!)
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26pt
Better when you both agree and you ask for the paypal and the seller replies with that he sold it to someone else casue you responded half an hour late
2 months ago
23pt
Helsing (2 months ago) #50343356Better when you both agree and you ask for the paypal and the seller replies with that he sold it to someone else casue you responded half an hour late

Now that is kind of an asshole move. Especially when an agreement has been made.
2 months ago
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0pt
I recently had someone on this site ask me to take individual page pictures of an artbook I'm selling (which I have a picture of, which is enough).

I linked them a random google search I found and told them to google it.

I've sold over 100 things here, eventually you'll come to realize that buyers are just money and their money isn't worth any more than the next buyer's. They're not the seller and they're replaceable. People that show genuine interest generally make the trade push through within a couple of days or so, because they actively want something from you instead of this lowballing, bartering, can-you-take-pictures-of-all-four-corners-of-the-box time wasting nonsense. If they're wanting customer service they can visit a store where a clerk is being paid to give it.
2 months ago
0pt
I've only done this once and it was because I was at a social function, and by the time I remembered late within the next day,I thought it would awkward to repsond with a "I'll look elsewhere but thanks" by then. Should have thinking back. But usually I respond when I can no longer/want to buy.

Though I did have an experience with a seller who I may have annoyed with all my questions. They eventually stop responding to me. Checked their ads and the figure's ad was now under unavailable. I felt annoyed because I was going to purchase the figure regardless of my confusion on pricing. Wish they told me someone else was trying to buy too.
2 months ago
4pt
As someone who is mostly on the buyer side, I can say for myself that I make sure to contact sellers only when I actually have the actual cash prepared first and I am sure I want the figure, since I think that the fact that said person is selling to begin with means they probably need the money or the space. To contact someone when you are not actually prepared to buy is wasting both of your times. If I have doubts or don't have the money why contact the seller to begin with? Asking someone if they can wait, okay you may have your reasons but to me that seems kind of rude.

Having this mindset I have generally had pretty good experiences on the site, I even befriended some of the sellers I bought figures from. But then there are those instances where I have had sellers walk away on me after we had negotiated all of the stuff and I was basically ready to pay and they simply vanish and not give a reason why, and not even remove their ads, mind you. Or that time when I was talking to a seller, we agreed on everything and they were "I will send you a PayPal invoice tomorrow, I am not at home" only to contact me the next day and tell me "the figure has been sold". How? Why commit if you have committed to someone else? Why even talk to me and negotiate with me if you already have another buyer ready? Or at least tell me, so that I am aware of the possibility of this happening.

So, yeah. As with everything else in life there are two sides to everything. It should be a common courtesy - you have doubts about buying/selling don't contact the person/don't place an ad. And of course, everyone is allowed to change their mind, but at least tell to the person involved. Or if you are already talking to someone tell the other person beforehand. Figure is no longer available. Remove the ad. You don't have the money. Be reasonable with the time and don't make people wait. It should be as simple as that.
2 months ago
6pt
Ugh, I hate it when people change there minds and dont msg you about it. I personally have never done it since I dont think it takes that long to send a simple msg. It's even worse when people agree to buy but discontinue communication.

There was a time where I was selling something and a buyer asked if I could hold it for them for a week because they were trying to fix some "banking proplems". I said sure.
1 Week goes by and I didnt hear from them.I msg'd them to know if they still planned on buying. They asked if I could hold it for another week. Again I said yes since no one else has shown interest.

And again after a week I heard nothing from the buyer. I msg'd them and they msg'd back saying they were ready to buy.
When the buyer was provided with my PayPal I never heard from them.

A few days later I reposted the ad for the item and that same day the same buyer msged me to ask if the item was still available.

I straight up told them that I wasn't going to sell to them and that I had raised the price. But I didnt. I just didnt want them wasting my time anymore than they already have.

I no longer hold items for people. And let buyers know that if I dont hear from them in a certain amount of time, that I would assume they are no longer interested and I would move on to the next potential buyer if there was any.
2 months ago
3pt
SkiaEsh (2 months ago) #50412032I had a person ghost me two times. The first time they contacted me, it was constant emails, then told me they had to wait to purchase, which was frustrating because why ask someone about a figure if you can't buy it. The second time they contacted me, we were at the point of exchanging PP emails, and they ghosted me. Several months later, they contacted me again and ghosted me again, though I pretty much expected it and only kept responses minimal.

This happens to me on Ebay constantly. I get a flurry of messages professing "I want to buy it in two days when I get my pay" or something like that, asks tons of questions, asks for extra photos, etc, and then of course they ghost completely after. -___-
2 months ago
-10pt
Rethinking comment, as I was rightfully voted down. Having given this a thought, I agree, if the seller is offering something, they should be willing to at least contact the buyer. Can't really use social anxiety as an excuse.
2 months ago
1pt
I can't say I have had this problem as a seller. Actually the first few figures I sold, I had so many problems with paypal that it took 2 weeks to do the sale, but thankfully my buyers were very sweet and patient. And my other sales have gone by totally fine.

As a buyer: I have only once proceed to ask about an item and then decide against it, but I apologized sincerely. And I have asked if someone was willing to sell just bonus items but I understand its not common, once it was rejected and another time, the person was okay with it! I think its all about being polite and accepting what happens.

However, I do have one poor experience as a buyer. I had everything ready to go and was just waiting for an invoice to pay for Miku 7th dragon scale, and suddenly the seller stopped contacting me entirely. I guess they sold it to someone else, but didn't even care to let me know or update me saying its no longer available. I was actually rather upset about that.
2 months ago
1pt
I had a person ghost me two times. The first time they contacted me, it was constant emails, then told me they had to wait to purchase, which was frustrating because why ask someone about a figure if you can't buy it. The second time they contacted me, we were at the point of exchanging PP emails, and they ghosted me. Several months later, they contacted me again and ghosted me again, though I pretty much expected it and only kept responses minimal.
2 months ago
2pt
This is exactly what happened to me a couple of times. I am new seller with just a dozen or so selling experience on mfc.

One time the “buyer” asking for shipping quotes and offer an unreasonable price (half price off) then dissapear into nothingness, on the other case there’s a “buyer” who asking for a bundling price then back off to say he only interested on one item and asking to sell me for a bundling cut price and then dissapear.

I don’t despise haggling, it’s common to do in a transaction, but when the “buyers” offer an unreasonable offer it’s really frustating to me. Geez, seriously how can you ask for $100 price when my asking price is $200 (the item market prices are all over $300 btw) -___-“

Is it that hard to say that you do not want to buy the item anymore? Surely, it will be dissapointing to know the “buyer” won’t buy our item, but it will be much better than left us seller hanging in the dark.
2 months ago
3pt
Happens to me couple of the time on craiglist.

People sre interested,I respond to their question and then they go radio silent....

Or sometime I am on the buyer end. Asked for a photo (which the seller sent),then I proceed with asking about the meeting detail and all the sudden seller diasappears.

Its fine if first inquiry is unanswered. But why would the other end disappearing after a few email correspondence?
2 months ago
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