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mimi_himemimi_hime2 months ago
thats right im gonna get a little salty today about figure collecting and i wanna see what you guys feel about it to, the main question i have is:

what comments do you get about your collection that you dont like?

i feel like this hobby as a whole is a really nice hobby but i think almost everyone whos in it has gotten some comments that they dont like and have ultimately just come to ignore a majority of them usually being it's a waste of money or comments along those line.

most hobbies take money no matter what,sports,crafting,arts,cars, everything takes a lot of money from organization/parts/tools/machines and gear it all adds up and i dont see the money i spend on my figures any different from someone who collects sports memorabilia or restores cars for example. ive come to ignore most negative comments from my parents and partner BUT

BUT BUT BUT i think the number one comment i really dont like that really grinds my gears isnt really even a bad one, When someone looks at my collection and says things like "oh your lucky to have that money" or "oh man thats a lot of money if i had that id..." and finally "oh i wish i had that". now theres nothing wrong with it especially the last one like ive seen others collections and wished i had some figures they had but every time i hear it it's either condescending or said in a manner that it sounds almost guilt trippy and i feel bad for owning something they want

thats what bothers me, so lets hear it what sort of comments bother you, what do you hate hearing even if you ignore it or what do you LIKE hearing too!
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angel_sweetie1 month ago#78867132View spoilerHide spoiler^^^^ I completely agree with all of this!!! When I do open up about my collection and passion for it, it is usually only to someone I trust and love in a way that makes me comfortable to share parts of myself with... so I can't deny that it irks me a little bit when the response I receive is something along the lines of "Wooow.. I could never afford that".
I have only recently acquired enough stability to be able to build my own collection, so I can deeply empathize with anyone who may have that "This must have cost you so much money!" perspective when being shown what someone else has spent money on (especially something that may be considered a luxury good or non-essential).
But I am showing it because I am PROUD and happy and want to share that feeling with the person as a friend or family member... Not because I want to show off or remind them of their own struggles. I guess it is a bit of a double edged sword, that requires some careful consideration on both ends. It is reassuring to see that a bunch of you can also relate to these feelings! :)
Because of my general private personality type, I haven't had many opportunities for good or bad comments. I think one that stuck with me though, was after listing a couple figures I was considering to buy next, a family member responded with listing every purchase I had made recently and saying "So what else do you need now?" It probably sounds minor but it made me uncomfortable for sure.
My favourite comment was my Dad acknowledging the value and artistry behind scale figures, asking to see my most recent purchase (even if he was just pretending to care, it was a bonding moment for us lol) and saying "Of course! I know" in response to me ranting about how spending money on figures is the same as anyone spending money on whatever they are into, whether it be baseball cards or sports cars or a designer sofa :P


Thank you for the quote! I totally empathize with everything you shared as well. Like you, I’m very private, and I am careful about who I share my collection with. There’s a very specific kind of disappointment that comes with opening up to people, only to have them make off-colored comments about your collection.

“But I am showing it because I am PROUD and happy and want to share that feeling with the person as a friend or family member... Not because I want to show off or remind them of their own struggles.“

This!!! This really stood out to me! It feels bad that on top of having to (1) feel brave and comfortable enough with someone to share with them I also have to (2) 4D chess an assumption of if they will misinterpret my sharing as “showing off.” I know that we are only responsible for our own feelings but I can’t help but feel bad anyway when someone responds awkwardly.

And lol at your family’s “what do you need now” comment. They probably have non-essential things they are able to “justify” buying but it’s always easier to criticize someone else, no? In any case, bless you for having such a compassionate head on your shoulders. Just from reading your response, I get the feeling that you are a kind person. You are able to sympathize without letting the strange comments ruin your enjoyment of the hobby, which is what’s most important!

All of that being said, your dad is SUPER WHOLESOME. What a good guy. ; ~;
1 month ago
poemgranate2 months ago#78638255This sucks and I’m sorry that you received such a careless comment. Like you, I’m private about my collection but I’ve also received some iterations of the same feedback.
“It must be nice to have a real job” or “I don’t own figures like that because I don’t have the money.” They probably meant no harm, but at the very least I’m at a loss of how to respond.
These commentators are likely just reacting to the very real privilege that collectors have. I don’t deny that my income and side hustles give me a certain level of freedom to enjoy and pursue this hobby. But at the same time, I understand where they are coming from. Being able to allocate $100+ to a single figure (using myself as reference!) is impressive irregardless of income. There are definitely people who really can’t afford this hobby, even when done in moderation.
Still, I wish people would think more about what they say to collectors like us before they say anything.
Sometimes, I’m tempted to ask them; “How do you want me to feel and to respond to what you just said?” Not because I’m trying to be cheeky, but because I genuinely wonder what answer they are looking for.


^^^^ I completely agree with all of this!!! When I do open up about my collection and passion for it, it is usually only to someone I trust and love in a way that makes me comfortable to share parts of myself with... so I can't deny that it irks me a little bit when the response I receive is something along the lines of "Wooow.. I could never afford that".
I have only recently acquired enough stability to be able to build my own collection, so I can deeply empathize with anyone who may have that "This must have cost you so much money!" perspective when being shown what someone else has spent money on (especially something that may be considered a luxury good or non-essential).
But I am showing it because I am PROUD and happy and want to share that feeling with the person as a friend or family member... Not because I want to show off or remind them of their own struggles. I guess it is a bit of a double edged sword, that requires some careful consideration on both ends. It is reassuring to see that a bunch of you can also relate to these feelings! :)

Because of my general private personality type, I haven't had many opportunities for good or bad comments. I think one that stuck with me though, was after listing a couple figures I was considering to buy next, a family member responded with listing every purchase I had made recently and saying "So what else do you need now?" It probably sounds minor but it made me uncomfortable for sure.

My favourite comment was my Dad acknowledging the value and artistry behind scale figures, asking to see my most recent purchase (even if he was just pretending to care, it was a bonding moment for us lol) and saying "Of course! I know" in response to me ranting about how spending money on figures is the same as anyone spending money on whatever they are into, whether it be baseball cards or sports cars or a designer sofa :P
1 month ago
I used to get a lot of comments off my mother whenever a figure arrived, she would try to tell me they were a waste of money and that I should sell them then give her the money for whatever reason.

Mostly it was the being called a freak and weirdo that used to upset me as I always thought mothers should just support their children’s decisions but lol I had to just get over it and ignore her. She’s not been as bad the past year or so, she just makes a point of asking if the customs fees are worth it -.-

The worst though was a woman who used to work where I do, calling me a p**dophile when she saw a photo of an Illya figure I bought saying she “looks like a little girl and that (makes me) looks like I’m into kids” that one really upset me for a while (but this was the same woman who said no one can be depressed unless they lose a child like someone we knew so her shit annoyed me anyway)
2 months ago
Hmm. I can understand being a bit put off the whole "if I had that kind of money" comment, but I'm not too bothered by people saying they wished they had things as long as it doesn't come off in that whole "you should give it to me" or "sell it to me" sort of light.

I think my biggest pet peeve is people telling me I have too much stuff. I am aware I have a lot, I don't need you to tell me, lol. It bothers me more with my family saying it than randos online though. I have a lot now considering I only have one room to store it in. When I get my own place it won't look as crowded because I'll have more space XD
2 months ago
This is a very thorny topic for me. Growing up, my family gave me some very harsh commentary on my hobby, and back then I only collected merch. There were even things said I can't ever forgive, even if the person that said them is long dead. I can't really go into details without writing a long rant, so let's just say I'd rather die than have my collection and me share a roof with family again. God only knows what I'd hear about my figure collecting.

Since you asked about good comments, I'll oblige. I appreciate the people who understand that these are little pieces of plastic art and tell me how cool they are or that I have good taste. Honestly I was terrified of my friends seeing my figures after how awful my family was to me, but I'm so happy they're cool with it and even like my taste. My brother was always supportive and is a fellow collector. He still likes to see my new hauls from time to time.
2 months ago
poemgranate2 months ago#78638255View spoilerHide spoilerThis sucks and I’m sorry that you received such a careless comment. Like you, I’m private about my collection but I’ve also received some iterations of the same feedback.
“It must be nice to have a real job” or “I don’t own figures like that because I don’t have the money.” They probably meant no harm, but at the very least I’m at a loss of how to respond.
These commentators are likely just reacting to the very real privilege that collectors have. I don’t deny that my income and side hustles give me a certain level of freedom to enjoy and pursue this hobby. But at the same time, I understand where they are coming from. Being able to allocate $100+ to a single figure (using myself as reference!) is impressive irregardless of income. There are definitely people who really can’t afford this hobby, even when done in moderation.
Still, I wish people would think more about what they say to collectors like us before they say anything.
Sometimes, I’m tempted to ask them; “How do you want me to feel and to respond to what you just said?” Not because I’m trying to be cheeky, but because I genuinely wonder what answer they are looking for.

I agree, I'm sure the person didn't say it out of malice, but as you mentioned, it would be nice people were more careful about their words or considered how it sounds to the other person. Those remarks are often throwaway comments, but like litter, they're making those words someone into else's burden even if they didn't intend that. They think it's just one innocent question/comment, but don’t realize the person may have heard the same thing over and over so they're carrying around a pile of all these terrible words.

Nemsy2 months ago#78638641I got this a lot from other people who I no longer speak to, it's a really condescending thing to say to someone. You can manage almost anything with the right budget, some people just don't have the ability to do it and get upset when they see people who can. Don't let it bother you too much! :)
I appreciate it! I definitely try not to dwell on it, but since I generally get favorable comments on my collecting, I guess it just stands out.
2 months ago
The only thing I ever had to deal with was when I lived with a relative. Mind you I was working 35 to 40 hours, paying rent, buying groceries, etc., and yet I got people breathing down my neck at how wasteful I am. It's not like I was balling out of control or anything all I did was buy a figure with my credit card I never used anyways, pay it off then wait for the next time I wanted something.

Nowadays I can afford to buy one or two figures a year with budgeting. But the new salt is the side comments I get on how lewd or risque so of my figures are? It ain't my job to censor my home for kids. I mean for one I don't have any kids, for two if God forbid I gotta babysit the rated R shit gets stored away in its box.

And even then people just don't seem to get the whole "I bought it cuz it's cute or beautiful" or "I really like the character". No I don't yank my crank to or on my collection this stuff is expensive and requires regular upkeep.
2 months ago
I've definitely been told "but that's so much money" by my family and best friend. It annoyed me at first but I ended up laughing in response. Like, no shit they cost money, their value is personally still worth it. My bestie has since stopped commenting on it and my brother even encouraged me to buy a nendoroid if I needed a pick me up due to the pandemic situation. I guess they quit when they realized I wasn't going to stop and saw that I manage my money well enough.

My mother did tell me some time ago that I needed to stop soon when she looked into my closet and saw all those boxes haha But I don't necessarily disagree with that sentiment. When you run out of space it is something to consider. Still don't plan on telling her how much my figures actually cost though, then I'll never hear the end of it!
2 months ago
My top 2 retarded comments till now are as follows:

1. What does your mother says about collecting nude figures?
- Well I am 33, live on my own and earn my own money so I can do with it whatever I want.

2. Wow that must be a lot of money spent on these figures. I bet you could go on a nice vacation instead.
- Well, I think I can set my priorities on how to spend my money by myself. I can still go on vacation if I want, it is not like I spend all my money on figures and have nothing to eat.
2 months ago
noctisity2 months ago#78636193I'm quite private about my collection so generally only my close family and friends know about it (and never comment anything too annoying/bad). But there was one comment I received a while ago which has never left my mind: "It must be nice to have a real job." I was so baffled and unsure of how to respond.
I was working an office job as an administrative assistant at the time, which didn't exactly mean I was loaded. I still had bills to pay and food to buy. I just budget well and have a narrow collection focus. You can never tell what someone's personal circumstances are just based on one facet of their life.
Once in a while I think about this comment and feel mildly insulted on behalf of other collectors lol.

I got this a lot from other people who I no longer speak to, it's a really condescending thing to say to someone. You can manage almost anything with the right budget, some people just don't have the ability to do it and get upset when they see people who can. Don't let it bother you too much! :)
2 months ago
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